Did you ever think of the rules this way?

Like, I called someone the n word, so people can do anything they want to me.  Except, I think the person is getting away with making me think they wanted me to do it.  Instead, they think they can do bad stuff, stuff that they'd been doing, anyway, sorta unobtrusively.  They might think they deserve it.  Now, however, they have peaked their pleasure and decided to take certain traits away from me.  I think a bunch of people do this, see things in different ways, but have no point and shouldn't be doing this because it isn't smart...  It's mean, and that's not okay because I'm not allowed to do the wrong things to them.